I’m been thinking a lot about this recently and also it’s a topic very relevant to coaching presently so I wanted to share a few insights and perhaps give you some things to be thinking about also.
How do you live your life? That’s a big first question! Are you mindful in the moments? Are you connected to each thing you do, each conversation you have, each thought or feeling you experience? Are you aware of being present and in this very space and time? Right now. And in every other moment you live? If you are, that’s so fantastic. It’s actually the only time we have. Truth. Being mindful in the moment helps us be fully engaged with what is happening to us and to our surroundings, to know how we think and feel and to learn to appreciate each interaction and emotion.
For most of us however the reality is far from this. In life, with so many things to do, places to be, ongoing and getting longer to-do lists, expectations of us, pressures and stresses, worries and fears, we live not in the present moment at all but in all of that other headspace and overwhelm instead.
We’ve become experts in multitasking. We do several things at once to get things done and usually mindlessly thereby in our attention to each specific task, event, action or conversation.
We’ve also got into the way of being in autopilot mode, again doing things mindlessly, without focused attention or concentration on the task or situation in hand.
Can you think or any examples of these in your current life? Situations where you are mindlessly doing, or being? Times in which you are doing many things at once without any key focus on each? We may think it’s efficient to work like this. Or necessary even. But the reality is it’s not only exhausting but also pretty ineffective. Can we really do more than one thing well at once? Can we truly focus or concentrate on anything more than a main activity? Undoubtedly not.
In the overwhelm of life we have also become used to constant activity and stimulation. We are doing stuff even when we are relaxing. Our minds are in overdrive and nearly always engaged. We can’t switch off. We have lost connection to the moment and have become preoccupied with what is next. Next to do, to be, to go, to have. Can you relate?
So, with this awareness, I task you to stop. Right now. And connect with this very moment. Put your effort, energy and focus on reading and reviewing this blog. And then take away what you will from it.
And ongoing, really start connecting with each and every moment mindfully and meaningfully. Start being aware of when you are mindlessly undertaking activities- when you are in autopilot mode or multitasking. And switch to mindful awareness.
Engaging with the present will give true connection to you and your thoughts and emotions, creating calm and focus in the moment, about the moment. And ease.
There are many helpful ways to support being more mindful and less mindless. I’ll talk about them in my next blog but perhaps for now, it’s enough to just try to live fully in the present moment, without worry about the past or fear or overwhelm about the future.
Let me know what you think. And feel.
Let’s begin. Now.