Five months of the year are over. It’s quite unbelievable. And for at least two, life has been completely different from what we have ever known. In so many ways.
As lockdown is easing a little and the journeys on the government’s road and route maps are paving the way for gradual change, perhaps it’s now time for us to reflect on our own pathway of 2020 and our own route ahead.
If you were writing an account of your year to date, what would it sound like? How would you describe it? What words do you reckon you’d be using? Maybe that’s all worth thinking about. Perhaps take five minutes right now and jot down some notes.
I know in my work with clients since March, Coronavirus, working from home and lockdown restrictions were key focus areas for discussion and support and actually until the very end of May, were mostly what all conversations were about.
For your words and thoughts, are they positive or negative? Happy or sad? Bright or dull? Energetic or calm? Successful or otherwise? Do they make you feel good? Or not? Take another moment to reflect on them. How you feel is how you feel but I’m wondering if you could choose to feel differently if they don’t provide you with a sense of well-being.
So if your reflection proved to be not so helpful to your wellbeing and included words and feelings like frustration, boredom, sad, anxious, upset, lonely, annoyed, angry, worried, stressed, unhappy, trapped, unproductive, alone and fed up, wouldn’t it be good to review and explore how you might change your connection with that time. If these are words and emotions you frequently experience, your wellbeing will be affected.
I urge you to think about hope, enthusiasm, calm and with control, connection and being connected, gratitude, appreciation, engaged, happy and positive, able and capable, empowered and with self belief, optimistic and realistic.
Does that sound better? If so, think about how you could connect differently with your experiences, the situations you face.
So many events and situations are out-with our control, not just in this period of time, but always. So there’s a couple of points to mention here. We CAN choose to change our attitude to situations that we can’t control, and work with and take action around those we have control over. This will improve our outlook and wellbeing.
So, back to my question of… ‘What is your journey going to look like, around what you know is possible? How are you going to shape and form the rest of 2020?
How can you choose to cope and deal with the uncontrollable circumstances so that you have the best possible experiences still despite them?’
So often, and lockdown is no exception, our attitude determines the outcome of the situation, rather than the situation itself.
Is it possible to choose how we deal and feel about a situation? Yes! It absolutely is! Choose hope, choose calm, choose our choices and choose differently. Choose coaching if you’re struggling and would value support to feel better connected,
In my next blog I’m going to be talking about life in lockdown from a personal perspective so I will look forward to seeing you again then.
Take care meantime.